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woodland creature@meowski@fluf.club (2026-07-22 08:59:48)
@rozenglass @Grumblesock well, sorry to hear about it.  sometimes you can't make people be straight or give truthful answers and just have to accept that you don't have the full picture.  you can count your blessings that you don't have a child custody battle ahead of you
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Red Rozenglass@rozenglass@fedi.dreamscape.link (2026-07-22 10:04:10)
@Grumblesock@clew.lol @meowski@fluf.club I don't think she even knows the truth herself.  She's always been the kind of person to learn from the world by pushing against it, and the world pushing back.  I'm a lot more the thinking theory and models kind of person.  My best guess is that when she chose to marry me and come with me she didn't know what trading everyone and everything in her world for me really meant.  It only truly sunk in after her grandma died, then her aunt died, then her mom got a heart attack and had to stop working, then her best friend got diagnosed with something that is very likely to kill in a year.  All while she's hopping countries with me for years, places unfamiliar, languages she doesn't know, can't even talk to anyone, missing all what the US as a first-world country provides.  Not even internet, water, and electricity are guaranteed things in the places we've been.  So when she was last visiting the US to see family again after a few years away, it all finally hit her, hard.  The life I'm living is not for her, not the life she always wanted to live.  I thrive in uncertainty, in adjusting plans on the go, in adapting to whatever life throws at me, I had to, dealing with war and displacement and being wanted by my government for a decade for deserting the military during the civil war, and all kinds of things that I could have never planned beforehand, while her dreams were a cute little house in suburban America with two kids and a dog.  The US wouldn't let me within a 100 miles of its border for the foreseeable future.  No amount of tasty meals we cooked together, hobbies we shared, fun we had, promises we made, could replace the life she wanted, the person she wanted to be.  She needed stability, safety, knowing where she was going, she needed friends and family and neighbors, nearby, that she could care for, live around, and who cared for her, not to feel alone.  She saw my need to adapt all the time, and my focus on my work and bu

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YBG pern@pernia@cum.salon (2026-07-22 10:13:27)
@rozenglass @meowski @Grumblesock holy crap bro. where u from?

woodland creature@meowski@fluf.club (2026-07-22 10:33:22)
@rozenglass @Grumblesock tragic story, really. love hurts.  sounds like you are taking it in stride. i hope it works out somehow for you both.